Sound Peace

Sometimes No Means Yes

Do you ever feel it’s hard to say no, because you want your “everyone” to get what they want and find happiness?  Sometimes saying yes to every request doesn’t bring the positivity we intend; trying too hard to wish "yes" into being when it's not in the flow can clog up the whole thing.  This question comes up with creativity and inspiration too.  Sometimes just-plain-hard-work is what the creative spirit calls forth.  When that happens, it feels good to go with it. But trying to push the spirit to create too fast will not bring the fruit, only time and the sun and rain can do that.  In the garden, this lesson is learned again and again.

Too much fertilizer brings fast growth and at first, seems to bring health. But it’s an illusion. Tender new growth that comes too fast is a tasty meal to the pests.  When the soil is nutritious and balanced, rich with the stories of life that has come before and moved on, the growth will be strong in its own time; there will still be pests but they will not overrun.

Pushing too hard will not get us there faster, only harder.  A simple “no” when it's needed can work wonders, open space and time for inspiration, let the breath quiet and the new song be heard.

Don’t be deceived by what seems to be common sense...  the idea that “no” is always negative.  When “no” protects your Self from overwhelm, then it becomes positive –  a “no” that says “yes” to your life. 

-- David Gordon

Zap Stress with Deep Breathing

 Stressful situations can really make you feel helpless.   Once you find yourself in one, there seems to be nothing you can do to stop yourself from becoming tense, your muscles tightening, and then your mind starts adding lots of negative thoughts to the mix.

Not only is it very unpleasant to feel this way, it also is very bad for your heart and your entire immune system.  Plus it reduces your ability to be creative and to respond to challenges in the most responsive way.

But actually stress is not something that happens all in one instant.  It builds up in our body after many things trigger us over and over again throughout a day. 

The trick is to zap stress right as it starts.  The best way to do that is with deep breathing.  It may seem simple, because it is but deep breathing can have a profound effect on your health and well-being.   It has been the key to yoga and meditation for thousands of years.

When you take full deep breaths, it keeps your entire stomach, chest, shoulders and back from tensing and becoming stiff.   

The first thing that happens when people feel stress is their breathing becomes short and shallow.
By breathing deeply when you feel tense, you can stop this from happening.

Here is how to do effective deep breathing

Breathe into your stomach so your stomach extends and becomes full.

Then let the air fill your chest so your chest becomes full and your shoulders go down and back.

Let the air out completely.  As you let the air out relax your shoulders and stomach so they are soft and loose.

Breathe slowly yet naturally.

Do not breathe too fast or you will get too much air and feel light headed.  Don't breathe too slowly either where you end up taking in air too fast on the inhale.

Just breathe at a natural slow rate that feels right to you.

As you do this for a few minutes you will start to feel your muscles in your shoulders and chest start to loosen and your stomach will become soft. 

This best thing about deep breathing is that you can do it at any time in any place.  If you make it a habit to breath deeply when you feel stress you will be able to stay much more relaxed in any situation and your heart and immune system will be more protected from negative effects of stress.

Not only will you be healthier, sleep better and feel more relaxed, when you are in this state of being you will find it much easier to meet the day with enthusiasm and be positive.  When you are relaxed it's much easier to be the person you really want to be.

 - Steve Gordon