Do you ever feel it’s hard to say no, because you want your “everyone” to get what they want and find happiness? Sometimes saying yes to every request doesn’t bring the positivity we intend; trying too hard to wish "yes" into being when it's not in the flow can clog up the whole thing. This question comes up with creativity and inspiration too. Sometimes just-plain-hard-work is what the creative spirit calls forth. When that happens, it feels good to go with it. But trying to push the spirit to create too fast will not bring the fruit, only time and the sun and rain can do that. In the garden, this lesson is learned again and again.
Too much fertilizer brings fast growth and at first, seems to bring health. But it’s an illusion. Tender new growth that comes too fast is a tasty meal to the pests. When the soil is nutritious and balanced, rich with the stories of life that has come before and moved on, the growth will be strong in its own time; there will still be pests but they will not overrun.
Pushing too hard will not get us there faster, only harder. A simple “no” when it's needed can work wonders, open space and time for inspiration, let the breath quiet and the new song be heard.
Don’t be deceived by what seems to be common sense... the idea that “no” is always negative. When “no” protects your Self from overwhelm, then it becomes positive – a “no” that says “yes” to your life.
-- David Gordon